When I meet a Smart Kid, I know it. There is a look in their eye and a confidence or judgement that shines from their expressions. After the introduction, I wait for the next move. The “move” indicates if the child has been schooled in positive social behavior.
Yes, their IQ is probably higher than mine. But have they been held accountable for showing they are smarter than I am?
Parents have the power to prepare their Smart Kid to be polite through recognizing social clues and adhering to social norms. Modeling and explaining positive social behaviors forms positive teen habits. This helps to hold the Smart Kid accountable when they WANT to utilize their intellectual power but should not.
Both good and less desirable social norms are learned in the home, school, a friend’s home, a mall, club meetings, and even in online chats, etc. Insist the Smart Kid follows the positive norms regardless of the group. That is part of the lesson. Teach the importance of knowing the difference between their peer group behavior and all other groups.
Polite Habits to Encourage
Speak up, do not mumble | Listen before speaking | Avoid interrupting | Give cues you are listening like nodding |
No complaining without offering a solution | Avoid listening to and adding to gossip | Think before speaking | Remember names |
Avoid bragging about accomplishments | Avoid the judgement of others | Avoid swearing | Begin eating after everyone has their food |
More polite habits are found in Parenting Smart Kids.
Modeling positive social behaviors is powerful. Don’t fail to be a good example…period. For example, if a parent is on their cell phone during dinner or a conversation, don’t expect your teen to act any differently. Alert the Smart Kid to always watch and learn. Point out politeness when observed. A new sense of accountability may arise with this new “norm” conversation.
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